Life Sucks

[tchoron]

Where to begin???

Well I felt like writing this just because it makes me feel better. sorta

Few months ago I put a post here talking about moving out of state to be with my girlfriend. Well I did that and things were great. Loved living with her and her Parents. Left everything I had here in Michigan to be with her. Proposed to her at dinner one night with her and te family. Had special fortune cookies made up. Saying "Gina will you marry me?" and had hem brought to the table after dinner. She said yes, life was great. New job new life everything going well.

Well things changed. about a month ago she tells me that she doesnt want to be with me anymore. That she feels like shes not living life. ( we were to be married in 3 months ) This is after we have reserved the Hall, Paid for her dress, Bought a car together, Bought the cake, and all the Table stuffs, Even had the church set. Plus I have bought and paid for her wedding ring.

Well turns out she started dating a guy that was was working with. I caught her with the mess they left after having sex.

So between the time that I left and today ( 3 weeks ) She has moved into a house with him ( She is supporting them ). He had no job when I left and was waiting to fin out if he was going to jail or not. He set someones driveway on fire.

Well today I find out she she married this guy today infront of a judge.

Man I feel like @#$%. Life sucks.

Tchoron

[markfromindy]

Another way to look at is you are very lucky this happened before you got married, and she cheated on you after the vows were taken.
Wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't have a history of cheating. Doesn't sound like the two of you knew all that much about each other.
Like I said, sounds like you're the lucky one in all this.Way I look at it, you dodged a bullet here.

Did you get the ring back? Since she's the cheater I don't think it'd be wrong to try and get it returned. Or did her winner of a future convict hubby already hock it?

I been there, something similar happened to me a long time ago. I was crushed for a while till the realisation hit that she was the looser, not me. She cheated, and I deserved better than that.

A few years back I found out that mine was working in a dive as a stripper (Oh ya, nothing sexier than a fat woman who's nursed 2 kids dancing around in a thong) and living in a trailer park. Instant Karma baby!

[Jaxs]

To be honest it all sounds rather crappy. To be honest I have to agree with Mark on this one. Better now then later when you have kids etc. An expensive lesson to say the least. I would ask for the ring back and I would think you name is on the car papers to get that back. If not then you will be going to court to sort out who keeps the car and pays the payments. All very messy indeed. Look at it this way. This is nothing compared to a divorce with a house and kids etc.

On a positive note, Take some time and consider what is important to you, family and friends. Look for a new love but take it slow. Look for someone that has the same moral compass as you but different interests.

I am sure you will bounce back. I would gather thousands of guys can tell you a similar story. May not be very comforting to here that but we can all live, learn and move on.

[tchoron]

Well, Yes I did get the ring back.

I took everything. Even the van that we bought. Had the title changed over the next day.

Also got to find out that the reason that she got married so fast is that she is pregnant now. She says that she is 6 weeks. But if that is off just a week or 2 theres a good chance that it's mine.

Life sucks..

Tchoron

[Aeife/Niamb]

Tchoron, it was a painful thing to go through, but believe me....you dodged the bullet on this loser.

You deserve far, far better. Keep looking.

[nareesa]

hey you <huggles> forgive me for popping in here =) you deserve better so take care of yourself!

[tchoron]

Here's the quick update to everything.

I am getting the store that I am working at.
Means a $5 to $10k raise. Plus 401k with Matching and College classes paid for if it's related. So will be making anywhere from 40k to 50k. Nice bonus to me on getting a house real quick.

She lost the baby. Got really sick. Stayed in the hospital for 5 days.
Her husband called me at 2:30am the other day. Asking me the last time I talked to her. Which to me means that she didn't go home. So I am betting that she is getting out of the marrige now that she does not have anything to keep her there. ( But that's my thoughts ).

But I am happier then what I was.

[Jaxs]

I am glad things are shaping up. It is a marvel how some things happen and change your perspective on life and people. I am glad things are looking up.

Good things happen to good people. What goes around comes around and usually 2 fold.

Does getting the store mean management or ownership?

[Lastat]

awesome news man!!!

[Marna]

Looks like you got the better end of the deal. Glad to hear your professional life is on the upswing... your personal life will follow eventually after you have time to reflect, and decide on what to do next.

Don't let this one episode sour you on relationships though. There are bad and good.. gotta have a few of each to get a real perspective on what you need, versus what you want.

Take care, and fight the good fight. =)